on a sunday night, i mentioned to the hubby that the plan was to start getting jacob ready for bed at 8:15, change into pajamas, last milk feeding, read a book, and in his crib. wow do i wish it was easy as that. we knew he would cry, and that this would be our first challenge at tough love. i couldnt start that night because john said he didnt want to hear him cry, so i said fine, ill start tommorow night. heres how it went :
Monday: bedtime routine, in the crib, cried 45 minutes straight, within those 45, i went in every 15 to tell him i loved him, it was ok, sweet dreams and goodnight. kept crying, i picked him up, brought him tour bed and he held me tight and fell asleep. i nearly cried, how could i let him cry that long.
Tuesday: bedtime routine, in the crib, cried for 25minutes, fell asleep and didnt wake up till 6am. wow that was great.
Wednesday: bedtime routine, in the crib, cried for 15 minutes. fell asleep. i thought wow this easy stuff.
Thursday: same results as wednesday, and the hubby comes home late from his business trip.
Friday: bedtime routine, only this time daddy is doing it. he hasnt seen jacob all week, he rocks him, and puts him in the crib, jacob cries and dad brings him in to our bed and says " i dont like to see him cry, he will sleep with us tonight" all of a sudden im the bad guy, and i knew my routine was out the window.....
Present time: Megan and josh came down for the summer and so did my inlaws for two weeks. john worked from home, and during that time, jacob would play video games with dad and his brother until he would fall asleep, and slept withus the whole time.
now that the kids are gone, in laws are gone, and its back to the same routine, i decide to try it again.
Monday: bedtime routine, in the crib, cried and Screamed for 45 minutes. brought him to our bed.
Tuesday: same as Monday
Wednesday: sames as Mon and Tuesday, only this time, i rocked him to sleep, put him in his crib, and he woke up at 2am, picked him up and brought him to our bed.
Thursday: he fell asleep in our bed, tried to pick him up, he would cry so i put him back down.
Friday night: i didnt even try, i was exhausted from the week....
all the times that he would cry, he would call out mommy, daddy over and over. it breaks my heart, but it will be best for all of us. im trying it again tonight, wish me good luck......
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I feel your pain Elizabeth. It was too bad you couldn't have stuck with it the first time because Jacob seemed to adjust quickly! Monique slept in her crib as a baby. We did cuddle with her until she fell asleep, then we would put her in her crib. Once we moved to Hawaii and she really started teething, it became difficult. She would wake up in the night in pain. She would be up for 3-4 hours in the middle of the night. It was killing us. So we brought her to our bed to sleep. Now if she wakes up, we can sooth her back to sleep quickly without her fully waking up. About 9 months ago, she was in a lull for the teething, so I decided to try getting her back in her crib, having her fall asleep by herself, in her crib. The first night she cried and cried, Ernesto and I argued about it, he took her out of the crib and she slept with us. I did the same as you, went in every 10 minutes, then I would go back out and cry while she was crying. After that, Ernesto and I didn't agree on doing it that way. I wanted too, but he couldn't take it. So she has slept with us ever since. She is now 2 yrs and 4 mos old. She has a toddler bed instead of a crib. Ernesto will ask me every now and then "when is Monique going to sleep in her own bed?" I give him a dirty look and say "when she is ready to". Because now she is at a more difficult age. Sorry to have gone on and on, but I wanted you to know that you are not alone. Good luck!
ReplyDeleteIt's so hard I bet! Tough love can really be a hard things for moms! You (and John) have to remember that he's not hurt or suffering...he's OK. It's good you go in and tell him you love him and it's ok. It doesn't mean you love him any less if he's crying. He's got to learn! Good luck!!
ReplyDeleteso have you tried cribbing again?
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